In the past few weeks, my thoughts were predominantly occupied by the relationship issue. It was largely of the romantic department for I still remain unattached presently. Several moments of paradox and irony surface at interval. At one time I realise intuitively that this is not a compatible relationship; at another I make a decision (in my head only, not heart - which explains why sometimes decision made does not come to fruition or is not executed at all in the first place) that there is always an exception to the rule; that certain incompatibilities will be overcome by similarties. And by love - after all, they say love is the most powerful thing.
Compatibility issue has been a subject close to my heart, largely because I have previously had a glimpse into Chinese astrology and Western astrology. And because I have witnessed some relationships that work - by that I mean there is a spark, there is a sort of I-get-what-you-mean and you-know-that-I-get-it attitude between two people, despite that fact that there are individual differences in points of view. In short, there is chemistry or harmony between elements.
And I'm interested in this spark. Why opt for elements that don't have much interactions (think chemical interactions) when you can opt for spark, I thought.
As of yesterday, my decision has moved from head to my heart and finally come to the resolution that the relationship I intend to take to a new level should be best left at the base of the mountain.
Resolved. Relieved.
Upon waking up this morning, I suddenly have the realisation that in just about every type of relationship, there is one single ingredient that must be present in order to make THE difference - and rightly 80% of the difference. 20/80 rule!
Perhaps it is the power of the citrine crystal (which I wore last night before turning in) that brings about the expression of the thoughts buried deep in my subconscious into words. Citrine is able to "give concentration ability", I was informed.
So here is the secret ingredient for each type of relationships:
Spouse - loyal
Parents - filial
Siblings - helpful
Friends - helpful
Business partners - trustworthy
Colleagues - trustworthy
Teachers - grateful
Self - acceptance
Higher self/god - believe
Much unexpected is relationship with self. I am unaware that each person has a relationship with himself or herself until I read about it in one blogpost several years ago. Pretty much enlightening?
